Your virginity hangs around your neck like an albatross. Like there’s a great fault within you that’s holding you back but that nobody else seems to have.
What are you supposed to do about the fact that you’re one of the Great Untouched?
The earlier you lose it, the better off you are (no matter how unhealthy that act may actually be), but you should be trying by high school.
According to the Standard Narrative, the ideal time is at some suitably momentous occasion: the “big game”, at prom… If you can’t manage it in high school, then you wants to be there because here there be dragons.
On Monday, I talked a little about the toxic culture surrounding masculinity and how it hurts men.
Today, I want to start the conversation to help dismantle it.
The second is that by focusing on being A Virgin – making it part of your identity – you indulge in a form of confirmation bias; you see couples together and immediately assume that they’re fucking even though they’re on their first date.
You dismiss the people who still aren’t having any.
And believe me, it wasn’t much better for the women I tried to date, either.
I hurt a number of people in my quest to get my dick wet and, at the time, I didn’t care.
I was so embarrassed about being one of the great untouched that during my Freshman year, I made up a story about having gotten laid during Spring Break just to feel like I was one of the “normal” people.