” That kind of attack is outright spiritual abuse, and it comes out of the same weak character root that sent you into sexual sin in the first place. You must give your wife every right to play a role in defining what “trustworthiness” means to her in your marriage, and she must be able to count on you to come through for her on these issues.
If you’re to rebuild marital trust in the wake of a husband’s betrayal, there can be no dancing around the issue. When a husband demolishes his wife’s trust, there cannot be complete restoration until that trust returns, because trust is the basis of all relationships.
Trouble is, when it comes to trust, there’s a catch.
Betrayal’s damage demands gentle care, and you owe her that much simply out of restitution, if nothing else. Megan describes her experience: “My husband and I are four months into recovery, and my husband’s renewed walk with God is so exciting to me.
However, I’m still struggling to believe that I am safe, and that I won’t be hurt by his betrayal again. ” These agonizing questions reveal why a wounded wife needs your patience so desperately.
She also needs to see you being proactive in building purity into your life. Fred Stoeker is the co-author of several books, including , a book designed to help wives restore their hearts for their husbands in the wake of sexual sin.
You must be the one buying the porn filters, and you must be the one placing your computer in an open area, like the family room or breakfast nook. Fred is no stranger to pornography temptations and what they can do to a marriage.
No matter how desperately you want it, you can’t manufacture trust on your own.
Trust requires two ingredients: Your husband must become trustworthy, and you must trust again.
She can forgive me over and over again, even if I never ask her to do so. Brenda can only genuinely trust me when she has full confidence in my faithfulness when she’s not around. You need to face this responsibility like a Christian man. Rhonda’s words speak volumes to all husbands: “My biggest fear is what I don’t know or how deep his sexual sin is.
She can also commit her heart faithfully to me no matter how adulterous my heart may grow in return. Only one thing can bring that confidence—my consistent, faithful actions. About two years ago, we were building a house and living with my parents since the house we were living in sold and we didn’t want to rent if we didn’t have to.
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