him.” Then she marries him and in the not-too-distant future she becomes…well, miserable.She’ll then come to someone like me for counseling.My dating life is essentially the complete opposite of a fairytale. After arriving, I met him in the parking lot, nearly shaking with nerves.
Saying whatever came to mind allowed him to get to know the real me, with all my quirks and faults.
When I wasn't worried about projecting a version of me that wasn't authentic, I didn't have to stress about creating a lie.
It does not end with me on a date with 1995 Paul Rudd. We talked about our likes, dislikes, our jobs, what we saw ourselves doing in the next 10 years. Some of my best friends had never even seen my work because it was so personal to me.
As a woman navigating her 20s, I've tried just about every means necessary to nab my Prince Charming, but they all seemed to end with me sitting on the floor of my room, scrolling through old text messages with my gal pals and complaining about why nothing I ever did seemed to work. I was hesitant, but I showed him my social accounts, scrolling through my Instagram photos, showing off some photography I had done. The conversation flowed naturally, and we talked about everything from my anxiety to my father's cancer several years earlier, the death of a beloved pet to even an ex-boyfriend. The more I opened up to him, the more he seemed to listen to me and open up about his life as well.
I often ask, “You didn’t see this before you were married?
” Then she’ll tell me, “Yes, but I thought I could change him.” I think a lot of people are not being totally honest during the dating process.
But because of our belief in forgiveness of the sins of the past, many Christian couples fail to factor history into their mating decisions.
The wise seeker of a mate, however, would do well to look into the history of their potential spouse.
And while everyone makes mistakes, some mistakes have consequences and ramifications that can follow us for the rest of our lives.