A sort of ‘emotional sex’ that can be just as harmful and heartbreaking, when it moves too deep, too fast.” So how can you tell when emotional intimacy is pushing the limits? “Slow and Steady” are the words that should come to mind. Wait until you know you can trust someone with those things that matter to you.
Don’t share your most intimate personal details or your darkest secrets in the early stages of dating.
Our wedding took place just 14 months from the day we met, and that was almost 30 years, three kids, two dogs and three mortgages ago.
I still have every precious card and letter we wrote to one another during that time.
If we're serious about following Christ, we will heed Paul’s instructions to “be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Start by asking God to purify your heart, your thoughts and your actions in a way that honors Him and brings honor, not pain, to your boyfriend/girlfriend.
Set aside time to think through and pray through them.
As you begin dating, it is important that you each continue pursuing your individual relationships with God. Prayer is meant to be deeply intimate, baring your heart and your emotions before God.
You definitely don’t want to go too fast in this area. Once the relationship has progressed to “seriously dating,” make spiritual activities a key part of your relationship.
Revisit them now and then to assess whether you are keeping your commitment.
Dating is a great opportunity to learn more about yourself, and to know and be known by others. Be aware that emotional intimacy can carry you much deeper into your relationship than you ever intended to go, resulting in the double cost of a broken heart and a broken spirit.
Protect the deepest, most intimate parts of who you are both emotionally and spiritually.