You’re marginalising yourself and you’re also marginalising what you experienced. But it’s best to keep your ego in check because if you let these desires overwhelm and hijack you, you will make friends with the wolf or if you’re the assclown, ‘friendship fake’ to make yourself feel less of a creep.You want them to have even an iota of an idea of what they have put you through? If you broke up with someone because they couldn’t give you the relationship you want and they treated you without love, care, trust, and respect, your option is to distance yourself from them so that you can grieve the relationship and move on. ) and it reminded me, not only of why it’s critical to avoid collecting exes if you don’t want to be managing numerous crumb relationships in Never Never Available Land, but it also reminded me of why it’s even more important to stop this whole let’s be friends bullsh*t that we engage in after we break up with a shady ex.
When you choose to remain friends with someone who didn’t treat you well, you actually validate whatever negative ideas that they have about you When we break up with somebody, if we really have treated them without genuine love, care, trust and respect, they will not want to be our friend.
If they do offer or accept the hand of friendship, then it equates to ‘I’m Not That Bad’, after all, I’m good enough to be considered a friend.
Trust me when I say it will still burn, but it’ll be a lesson learned.
There is another universal relationship norm that many people believe in which is that you ‘should’ attempt to be friends with your ex.
What is forgotten is that you need only attempt to be friends with an ex that 1) treated you well and 2) where enough time has passed and you have both gotten over the loss of the relationship.
Let me assure you, for those of you hankering for friendship with people who didn’t treat you well, this is Hi, I’m Natalie!
It’s not that porn has magical powers that suck away your libido – no matter what /r/nofap says – it’s that porn sex is fucking about the cock and getting it in, rather than actual mutual pleasure or arousal.
It’s 99% about blowjobs with the occasional minimal nod towards cunnilingus.
The reason why we want to remain friends with our exes, even when they have treated us ‘less than’ with an absence of love, care, trust, and respect, is because we want to feel , that friendship is like the last chance saloon.