Not like scary bodybuilder muscles, but great definition and strong arms/back.
I definitely am attracted to a bigger man - but it has to be a certain kind of fat (and they have to be tall, too). I've come too far to enter in a relationship where the guy obviously is eating too much/drinking too much/ not exercising enough.
Saturday, June 21, 2008, PM Only very recently have I started viewing fit & toned men as more attractive than fat men.
BUT - I despise the fact that he sabotages every diet attempt I make and ignores his health, as doing so is essentially a way of saying he doesn't care what happens to me when he dies. For turnabout, the answer is yes - women will still be attracted to you if you have a good personality, nice manners, decent hygiene, etc.
But, if you want to keep a woman around, you need to take a look at your lifestyle.
I'm just not at all attracted to a skinny man or even an athletic swimmer or runner build. Saturday, June 21, 2008, PM I've had a chubby lover in the past, and I must say I will never do it again! Having said that, my husband is currently about 50 lbs overweight and nearly all of it is in his belly.
(he's 6'4") We're both working hard to lose weight though and I'm happy that my healthy eating habits are rubbing off on him and his healthy exercise habits are rubbing off on me. Everyone seems to have a different opinion, I always feel more comfortable with a man who is much bigger than I am.
Saturday, June 21, 2008, PM My hubby was SO skinny when we first started dating. He has gained some weight but is still super fit and trim. However, I like a man who is broad across the shoulders, and this can really only be achieved by weightlifting. A really muscular guy I like OK, but a muscular guy with some fat, so I can't see all the weird muscle lines is what I like most. Saturday, June 21, 2008, PM If a man is obviously overweight as opposed to being bigger because of muscle, then they are a definite turn off.
Having said that, I really like guys to have a bit of meat of them (not fat) but I don't like really skinny either. They could be the greatest friend ever, but I wouldn't date him.
I know that I'm not in the greatest shape either, but I'm working on it.
Recently my husband ran into health issues that caused him to completely change his diet.
He has dropped weight to the point that he is really skinny. I hate to say it, but I don't find him all that attractive now.