But if not, and having a child is a life goal of yours, you may be looking at the end of your marriage," says Bowman.
No problem in a marriage can be solved without open, honest communication.
Many factors influence the likelihood of remarrying after a divorce.
Based on the 2006 census, men remarry more often than women.
"If you're no longer spending any time together, if one or both of you is spending all your time at work, with friends, online—and if feels like a relief not to be with each other—it's a sign that you've already disengaged from the marriage."Some marriages encounter damaging, seemingly insurmountable problems—such as infidelity, the loss of a close family member, or a long sexual drought—and rebound from them.
But, says Alisa Bowman, author of , if one spouse repeatedly brings up an issue, asks for help, and makes it clear that the marriage will not last unless they both commit to solving it, and the other spouse refuses to go along, the marriage is in trouble.
It's a lifelong dance, a give-and-take, and it requires constant communication.
But if your partner continually refuses to listen to what you need (time, affection, sex/physical contact, help with children or chores), or refuses to share his own needs, you're not in a good place, says Dr.
Kaye."Some men—and stereotypically this is men—are just not cut out for marriage; they are unable to remain monogamous, even if they seemed to have wanted to get married," says Bowman.
What's worse, they manage to put the blame for their philandering and untrustworthiness on you, usually for being too jealous or controlling.
But if one of you is absolutely sure you want a child and the other categorically refuses, you're in trouble.
"If someone's close to either side of the will-we-or-won't-we-have-children fence, you can work through it.
The majority of people who have divorced (close to 80%) go on to marry again.