This caused such a massive fight - I thought I might absolutely lose it.But I stayed, both times justifying it by saying, his ex girlfriend was horrible, of course he's going to have trust issues.
He’s divorced, and just last night – he told me how his ex-wife used to tell him he was crazy and needed medication. If we don't sleep next to each other, he accuses me of having the neighbor guys over.
He tells me his ex-girlfriend must have contacted me because there are too many coincidences between the way she acted and the way I acted. He accused me of having an affair w/ another man from my work who hit on me one day (I told him about it many months prior).
then when he saw the blood it turned into 'oh you had period sex and to get an extra lunch break you bled through your pants on purpose so you could go home and see me on your "second break"' INSANE!!!
If I ever dropped toothpaste on my shirt or something I would freak out thinking he'll think it is from sex w/ some guy.. Why in the world would someone from the family not warn an unsuspecting victim? While I am not the boyfriend of the writer, I am THAT boyfriend, or in this case, THAT husband.
And it feels terrible, to see the pain I cause her.
I get accused by my wife of having no self control - and she is right.
He told me another ex-girlfriend was all about getting married and that it was obvious she did not love him (he’s said to me’ is marrying him all I care about’ a few times lately) and another one tried to steal money from him after they bought a house together. He has now included that man and that man's girlfriend in our drama. I had to explain EVERYTHING that happened in my life or my ex would turn it into something sexual I did.
I feel I’ve done everything I can, but still don’t want to let him walk away. We were at a park one day w/ our kids and he accused me of trying to get a grandpa's attention in front of him. I just bought new underwear and I took them out of the bag and took the tags off and put them on my bed to put away and he came over and automatically accused me of putting them out for when I have a guy over later!
Pretty much i have to step back for a few moments from almost every reaction I have and try to say to myself "normal thought - or not normal thought?
" It is hell to so completely mistrust your own thoughts and actions.
We've been together a year, we were to be engaged, have begun building a life together and are supposed to move in together his life and spread rumors about him. The second month of our relationship, he had me meeting him at work because he thought there were always people watching him when he left the building and he felt they would not follow him when I was there with him.